Aspire to be inspired.  For it’s only when we’re inspired that our true passion bursts forth from within, demands the world take notice, and renders us  irresistible to those around us.  It is inspiration that compels us to shed our insecurities, unleash our spirit, strut our stuff, and let the lucky elite see the soul behind the shield.  Our soul.  The eccentric, passionate, and somewhat challenging soul we keep safely guarded from the outside because we secretly fear it will send that hottie we’ve had our eye on running for the hills in search of a less complicated bobble head.  The girl who will conform to all of his likes, dislikes, convictions, prejudices, comfort zones, and twilight zones…without question, query, or quick wit.  The girl that mirrors himself without complication.  No muss.  No fuss.  The path of least resistance.  We are, by nature, a lazy species.  Always looking for the quickest means to an end.  And when it comes to dating, we’re no different.  Unfortunately, a mediocre companionship without passion or complication is like fast food.  It’s an easy, convenient way to double the amount of space you take up in your bed.  It can be sporadically good ~ but nothing special most of the time.  And all the while, it’s slowly and methodically picking away at your heart…leaving you lethargic, lazy, and boring.  We go to great lengths to prevent boredom because it’s…well, boring.  We don’t want to be bored with our sweetie any more than we want to be bored with ourselves.  So, whether we realize it or not, whether we like it or not, when it comes to a relationship, we will all eventually abandon the path of least of resistance and seek out the road less traveled…if only for the occasional change of scenery.

We seek out someone who not only inspires us, but who is inspired by us.

Eventually.

But our first instinct, and quickest means to an end, is to settle.  We choose to date a person who is nice, comfortable, and predictable.  Because it’s safe.  Because we need safe.  Feeling safe is a good thing, an instinctual thing.  But safe can be monotonous…and anything but inspirational.  We settle out of fear.  Fear that a better offer may not come along.  Fear that being alone would be worse.  We fear fear itself.  So we convince ourselves

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