If you’d like to get married, it’s important to have standards.
Those standards should focus on the things that matter.
If your “shopping list” for a husband-to-be starts out with height, weight, eye color, and other physical traits, you may miss the romance of a lifetime.
Looks fade. The guy with the great pecs or dazzling smile may be a shallow, self-centered creep whose main talent is manipulating women.
Look beyond how physically attractive (or unattractive) he seems at first.
Of course, if there’s no chemistry at all — if he seems repulsive to you — that can be a problem too great to overcome.
If he’s just a ho-hum guy, give him a chance. Get to know him before deciding he isn’t (or is) Mr. Right.
I believe that’s one of the greatest strengths of a romance that begins online, despite the obvious risks. (I’d never want to minimize them. Please be very, very careful when you think you’ve found Mr. Right, online. A background check is an important starting point.)
When you aren’t distracted by your Romeo’s physical appearance, you have a chance to discover the person he is, inside. That will make or break a marriage.
There are dozens of cliches about beauty being only skin deep, and you can’t judge a book by its cover. The fairy tales are full of stories like Beauty and the Beast, and the Princess and the Frog.
The lesson is: Love sees beyond the surface.
You may have seen this audition from Britain’s Got Talent (2009). It’s worth seeing again, to be reminded of how appearances can fool you.
Can anyone really fall in love in 90 minutes or less? I’m not sure about that. However, I am sure about this book.
My advice: Don’t make Bridget Jones’s mistakes! Fall for the right guy from the start — and find true, lasting love with him — by following the advice in this book.
I like this book. I like it a lot.
Nicholas Boothman gets right to the point. He shares the four things you and Mr. Right might be looking for. And, once you know which of those four is most important to you (and to Mr. Right), you’ll know whether he’s the right man for you.
The author explains the basics in this interview, but you’ll need the book to understand what the cues are and how to work with them.
Despite the book’s title, it won’t actually take you 90 minutes to know if the guy is a dream-come-true or a dud. Following the tips in this book, you’ll know in the first few minutes if this relationship is right for you.
This interview is a good preview of what’s in the book.
Here’s what Amazon says about this book:
Building on the power of first impressions, Nicholas Boothman shows how to find and meet the love of your life—and have that person fall in love with you—in a mere 90 minutes, or approximately the time it takes to have a first dinner date.
Now in paperback, this follow-up to his bestselling How to Make Someone Like You in 90 Seconds or Less is updated throughout with information on Internet dating, bringing together all of Mr. Boothman’s considerable interpersonal skills to the problem of finding lasting love, fast.
If you already know how to flirt, you don’t need The Flirting Bible.
However, you might want to read it anyway, to better understand what you’re doing right or could do better.
This book is a winner if you want to understand the subtle cues of body language. Use them to increase how attractive you are to men, and to spot warnings (and encouragement) from the men you’re near.
However, if you’re looking for a textbook on what to say and how to say it (phrasing, tone of voice, etc.), you may be disappointed with this book. (I’d also suggest that you might reconsider the essence of flirting. It’s at least 80% body language.)
Here’s a video of author Fran Greene giving flirting advice to Joan Rivers. It’s a funny interview, and the hair and the shoulder pads suggest this is fairly old video.
Nevertheless, flirting is timeless. Some of these tips are really good.
For a thorough book — mostly photos to show you want to do and not do — The Flirting Bible is a fun guide to the body language of effective flirting.
Here’s what Amazon says about this book:
Become the People Magnet You’ve Always Wanted to Be!
Want to make an unforgettable first impression? Or learn how to speak in a way that makes you stand out in a crowd? Or find out what signs a love interest might give if they’re attracted to you?
You’ll learn all of these flirting secrets and more with The Flirting Bible, your definitive guide to using and reading body language and other social cues to find instant adventure, friendship, fun, and romance.
Nationally renowned relationship expert Fran Greene, former advice columnist for Match.com, will walk you through her thirteen tried-and-trusted techniques for becoming the most confident and attractive person in the room (no matter if you think you are or not!).