Inspiration Inflation
Aspire to be inspired. For it’s only when we’re inspired that our true passion bursts forth from within, demands the world take notice, and renders us irresistible to those around us. It is inspiration that compels us to shed our insecurities, unleash our spirit, strut our stuff, and let the lucky elite see the soul behind the shield. Our soul. The eccentric, passionate, and somewhat challenging soul we keep safely guarded from the outside because we secretly fear it will send that hottie we’ve had our eye on running for the hills in search of a less complicated bobble head. The girl who will conform to all of his likes, dislikes, convictions, prejudices, comfort zones, and twilight zones…without question, query, or quick wit. The girl that mirrors himself without complication. No muss. No fuss. The path of least resistance. We are, by nature, a lazy species. Always looking for the quickest means to an end. And when it comes to dating, we’re no different. Unfortunately, a mediocre companionship without passion or complication is like fast food. It’s an easy, convenient way to double the amount of space you take up in your bed. It can be sporadically good ~ but nothing special most of the time. And all the while, it’s slowly and methodically picking away at your heart…leaving you lethargic, lazy, and boring. We go to great lengths to prevent boredom because it’s…well, boring. We don’t want to be bored with our sweetie any more than we want to be bored with ourselves. So, whether we realize it or not, whether we like it or not, when it comes to a relationship, we will all eventually abandon the path of least of resistance and seek out the road less traveled…if only for the occasional change of scenery.
We seek out someone who not only inspires us, but who is inspired by us.
Eventually.
But our first instinct, and quickest means to an end, is to settle. We choose to date a person who is nice, comfortable, and predictable. Because it’s safe. Because we need safe. Feeling safe is a good thing, an instinctual thing. But safe can be monotonous…and anything but inspirational. We settle out of fear. Fear that a better offer may not come along. Fear that being alone would be worse. We fear fear itself. So we convince ourselves
Text a Little Sext
Modern day Cupid has gone geek. And geek is chic. As a texting techie, you have the hottest trend in flirting right in the palm of your hand. Your cell phone, your lifeline, your communication mecca. From “Hi” to “Ttyl”… you text to share the latest gossip with your BFF, to explain why you’re running late for work, when you can’t remember whether you’re supposed to buy wheat bread or Shedd’s Spread, and, well…just because you can. But your communication mecca is good for more than just chore chatting and gossip gathering. It can be your secret weapon in an otherwise daunting world of dating – used to drive him mad with flirty suggestive messages. Turning that lifeline into a lustline. An always on-call hard juiced up love tool fitting snugly in your hand ready to rise to your every whim. With a little imagination and a quick “send,” you can relay your most intimate forbidden thoughts instantaneously, heighten your dating experience, and keep him begging for more.
In the past, texting has gotten a bad rep when it comes to dating. The do not’s outweighing the do’s like a hefty sumo wrestler outweighing an anorexic teenage fashion model. “Do not” discuss intimate feelings via text. “Do not” make dates via text. “Do not” convey things that can be taken wrong via text due to lack of facial expression. “Do not” make pledges of love via text. “Do not” blah, blah, blah. If the egg shells are that abundant around your dating situation, you need to find a more solid ground to stand on and chalk that date up to a “bad egg.” What girl doesn’t like to be courted? Teased? Doted on? What man doesn’t? Whether it’s coming from a text or a tin can phone tied together with strings. It doesn’t matter. We love the attention. The only real “do not” when it comes to texting is… DO NOT break up over text! Ever. It’s spineless and hurtful. And nothing says “I don’t care about you and never did” like a kiss-off text.
But aside from the kiss-off, texting is fair game in the world of modern dating.
A surprise text in the middle of a work day can be romantic, suggestive, racy, and flirty. The written word (or the texted word) can be the most erotic form of foreplay. Hence the crazed popularity for romance novels. The forbidden romance, the descriptively passionate glances and touches, and the heated sexual encounters are all built up in our minds through the written word. Our interpretation…of the characters, the feelings, the desires, the collision of hot and bothered hormones…thrashes around without limits in our imaginations because it can. Because there is no reality police living within the confines of our brain to take away our fantasy. Like the written word in a romance novel, your sexting talent is limited only by your own imagination and can have him fantasizing about you all day long. Bold “bangin” things you would otherwise be too shy or inhibited to say to his face, you can unleash on him with a text.
Displaying your sexuality with your textuality.
According to scientists, your brain is your most sexual organ. Ever in control, it dictates to the rest of your body what is hot…and what is not. A mind preoccupied with work, chores, insecurities, or the lyrics to “Who Let the Dogs Out? Woof…woof, woof, woof” will kill any potential for a sexual buzz. And as a woman, if your brain won’t join the party, you might as well put on a baggy sweatsuit and send everyone home.
But because flirty texting exercises your imagination, your brain is game. Virtual flirting with him on and off throughout the day is perpetual foreplay taking your imaginations on a virtual romp of wonderland lust, passion, and intrigue. After all the sensual teasing back and forth, both parties’ self esteem is boosted, revved up, and in the mood to get nude. Both feel chased, desired, and sexually uninhibited.
Nothing enhances pleasure like a liberated libido. Nothing liberates a libido like a boost of self
confidence. And nothing is more irresistibly addictive to a man than self confidence expressed through lack of sexual inhibition.
So go ahead. Text a little sext…
And brace yourself for what comes next.
Contributed by: Chick Hughes
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