Inspiration Inflation
Aspire to be inspired. For it’s only when we’re inspired that our true passion bursts forth from within, demands the world take notice, and renders us irresistible to those around us. It is inspiration that compels us to shed our insecurities, unleash our spirit, strut our stuff, and let the lucky elite see the soul behind the shield. Our soul. The eccentric, passionate, and somewhat challenging soul we keep safely guarded from the outside because we secretly fear it will send that hottie we’ve had our eye on running for the hills in search of a less complicated bobble head. The girl who will conform to all of his likes, dislikes, convictions, prejudices, comfort zones, and twilight zones…without question, query, or quick wit. The girl that mirrors himself without complication. No muss. No fuss. The path of least resistance. We are, by nature, a lazy species. Always looking for the quickest means to an end. And when it comes to dating, we’re no different. Unfortunately, a mediocre companionship without passion or complication is like fast food. It’s an easy, convenient way to double the amount of space you take up in your bed. It can be sporadically good ~ but nothing special most of the time. And all the while, it’s slowly and methodically picking away at your heart…leaving you lethargic, lazy, and boring. We go to great lengths to prevent boredom because it’s…well, boring. We don’t want to be bored with our sweetie any more than we want to be bored with ourselves. So, whether we realize it or not, whether we like it or not, when it comes to a relationship, we will all eventually abandon the path of least of resistance and seek out the road less traveled…if only for the occasional change of scenery.
We seek out someone who not only inspires us, but who is inspired by us.
Eventually.
But our first instinct, and quickest means to an end, is to settle. We choose to date a person who is nice, comfortable, and predictable. Because it’s safe. Because we need safe. Feeling safe is a good thing, an instinctual thing. But safe can be monotonous…and anything but inspirational. We settle out of fear. Fear that a better offer may not come along. Fear that being alone would be worse. We fear fear itself. So we convince ourselves
Dating – What He Means by "Not Ready" for Commitment
You’ve been dating for weeks, or months, or maybe even years. You might share dinners, weekends, or even a home. However, whenever you raise the subject of marriage, he says something like, “Quit pushing me. I’m not ready.”
That’s a big warning sign. The relationship isn’t over, but you might wake up one morning and discover that he’s met someone else.
The really demoralizing moment is when you see how quickly he got engaged (and maybe married) to her.
You wonder what was wrong with you. What was so much better about her, that he was eager to commit… and so quickly?
Long conversations with the mirror won’t help. Nor will well-meaning assurances by friends that “he wasn’t good enough for you, ” and “you can do better.”
If you don’t learn what makes men tick, you’re going to go through this over and over again. You need to learn the secret that the other women know..
Dating, Sex, and the Media
When you’re dating, sex can be a big issue.
For some couples, sex before marriage is not an option. That’s usually a religious decision.
At the other extreme, some couples are intimate from the beginning, with a “Sure, why not?” casual attitude.
Many couples are somewhere in between those extremes. The question for them is: How soon is “too soon”?
On Bravo’s TV series,Millionaire Matchmaker, star Patti Stanger usually advises couples not to have sex until they’ve both agreed that it’s a committed, monogamous relationship. That sounds good when she says it, but is it the right decision for you?
However, in the January 2012 issue of Allure magazine (page 45),
Dating – When You’ve Made a Big Mistake
In every relationship, there’s usually a time when one (or both) of you realize you’ve made a mistake. Maybe a big mistake.
It could be something obvious, like he forgot your birthday. Or, it could be the time he saw you hugging another guy after you’d had one too many drinks at a party.
He might have gone on a date with an old girlfriend, and — though nothing happened and he’s glad he’s with you, instead — he still feels guilty that he never told you about it.
Or, maybe he pretended to be richer than he is, or you acted as if your job was more important than it is, and there’s been no easy way to explain how that happened.
Whether they’re big indiscretions or “little white lies,” they can hit your relationship hard. In fact, they can kill the romance dead.
The big question is: Can you get past that?
Stephen Covey (the “7 Habits” guy) talks about the emotional bank account. It’s important to be sure it’s never overdrawn. If you make a mistake, you do something to make up for it.
But… what do you do when it’s a big mistake. A really big one? And, what do you do when you suspect that the man in your life is hiding a big, painful secret?
Is there a way to put so much back into that emotional bank account, it’s the equivalent of a massive lottery win?
The answer is yes.
It all comes down to honesty.
That doesn’t mean you should rush into a detailed confession that will send him running out the door. Nor should you nag, push and prod him into his own confession. In fact, that’s such a certain way to kill a relationship beyond any hope of saving it, you may as well keep your secrets and part friends.
I’m talking about a different kind of honesty, the kind where you’re being authentic in your relationship. No faking. No manipulating. No pretenses. No deception, and no more “little white lies.”
He wants to be your superhero, and he needs to feel that you appreciate him for that. It’s as simple as that.
However, where you are now in the relationship… it may not seem all that “simple” to get your romance back on track. Most magazine articles and relationship books will give you perfectly awful advice.
Guilt is a terrible thing, but now may not be the best time to bare your soul. Or, if you suspect him of doing something wrong, cornering him and forcing the truth out of him… that’s a really bad idea.
I can recommend a step-by-step course that can turn your relationship around, almost immediately. It even includes something called the “clean slate method” that’s as close to a mistake-eraser as it gets.
When I tell you that it’s called the Girl Gets Ring system, you may roll your eyes. You might feel that you’re far away from marriage and “happily ever after,” and you’ve read enough articles and books about how to manipulate your guy into a proposal, thank you very much.
Well, it’s not that kind of system. In fact, it’s pretty much one-of-a-kind. It’s a non-manipulative, non-pushy way to bring honesty and romance into your relationship. And, with that foundation… well, it’s the quickest, easiest, and smartest way to built the kind of loving relationship you deserve.
If you’re one step away from breaking up, you need this book and the audios that go with it. If your relationship has become so empty, you’re wondering if it really is “better than being alone,” you need the Girl Gets Ring system.
Getting engaged and married may seem nearly impossible, based on how your relationship is right now.
However, I can promise you this: Girl Gets Ring can revive your relationship.
Don’t give up on your relationship until you’ve tried it. You’re minutes away from beginning to restore the romance you once shared. The Girl Gets Ring System is right here.
Text a Little Sext
Modern day Cupid has gone geek. And geek is chic. As a texting techie, you have the hottest trend in flirting right in the palm of your hand. Your cell phone, your lifeline, your communication mecca. From “Hi” to “Ttyl”… you text to share the latest gossip with your BFF, to explain why you’re running late for work, when you can’t remember whether you’re supposed to buy wheat bread or Shedd’s Spread, and, well…just because you can. But your communication mecca is good for more than just chore chatting and gossip gathering. It can be your secret weapon in an otherwise daunting world of dating – used to drive him mad with flirty suggestive messages. Turning that lifeline into a lustline. An always on-call hard juiced up love tool fitting snugly in your hand ready to rise to your every whim. With a little imagination and a quick “send,” you can relay your most intimate forbidden thoughts instantaneously, heighten your dating experience, and keep him begging for more.
In the past, texting has gotten a bad rep when it comes to dating. The do not’s outweighing the do’s like a hefty sumo wrestler outweighing an anorexic teenage fashion model. “Do not” discuss intimate feelings via text. “Do not” make dates via text. “Do not” convey things that can be taken wrong via text due to lack of facial expression. “Do not” make pledges of love via text. “Do not” blah, blah, blah. If the egg shells are that abundant around your dating situation, you need to find a more solid ground to stand on and chalk that date up to a “bad egg.” What girl doesn’t like to be courted? Teased? Doted on? What man doesn’t? Whether it’s coming from a text or a tin can phone tied together with strings. It doesn’t matter. We love the attention. The only real “do not” when it comes to texting is… DO NOT break up over text! Ever. It’s spineless and hurtful. And nothing says “I don’t care about you and never did” like a kiss-off text.
But aside from the kiss-off, texting is fair game in the world of modern dating.
A surprise text in the middle of a work day can be romantic, suggestive, racy, and flirty. The written word (or the texted word) can be the most erotic form of foreplay. Hence the crazed popularity for romance novels. The forbidden romance, the descriptively passionate glances and touches, and the heated sexual encounters are all built up in our minds through the written word. Our interpretation…of the characters, the feelings, the desires, the collision of hot and bothered hormones…thrashes around without limits in our imaginations because it can. Because there is no reality police living within the confines of our brain to take away our fantasy. Like the written word in a romance novel, your sexting talent is limited only by your own imagination and can have him fantasizing about you all day long. Bold “bangin” things you would otherwise be too shy or inhibited to say to his face, you can unleash on him with a text.
Displaying your sexuality with your textuality.
According to scientists, your brain is your most sexual organ. Ever in control, it dictates to the rest of your body what is hot…and what is not. A mind preoccupied with work, chores, insecurities, or the lyrics to “Who Let the Dogs Out? Woof…woof, woof, woof” will kill any potential for a sexual buzz. And as a woman, if your brain won’t join the party, you might as well put on a baggy sweatsuit and send everyone home.
But because flirty texting exercises your imagination, your brain is game. Virtual flirting with him on and off throughout the day is perpetual foreplay taking your imaginations on a virtual romp of wonderland lust, passion, and intrigue. After all the sensual teasing back and forth, both parties’ self esteem is boosted, revved up, and in the mood to get nude. Both feel chased, desired, and sexually uninhibited.
Nothing enhances pleasure like a liberated libido. Nothing liberates a libido like a boost of self
confidence. And nothing is more irresistibly addictive to a man than self confidence expressed through lack of sexual inhibition.
So go ahead. Text a little sext…
And brace yourself for what comes next.
Contributed by: Chick Hughes
What to Do When He's "Just Not That Into You"
Do you know the signs that he’s “just not that into you”?
Do you know how to get your relationship unstuck and moving towards marriage?
A lot of women’s magazines will tell you to play “hard to get.” They explain that, if he thinks he might lose you, he’ll come to his senses and do everything he can to make you happy again.
…WRONG ANSWER!
Others will tell you to make yourself more attractive: Lose a few pounds. Change your hairstyle or hair color. Update your wardrobe. Learn some new moves to increase his pleasure when you’re alone.
… MORE WRONG ANSWERS!
When you were first dating, you followed “the rules” you thought would work. You asked him about his career. You pretended to be interested in his hobbies. You paid close attention to the cues he sent about what he likes in a woman, and you did your best to become that woman.
But somehow, at the end of each date, you always felt like you’d missed something important. That deep connection was almost there, but not quite.
Weeks, months, or even years later, you feel like you’re the one doing all the work in the relationship… and he’s still putting on the brakes when it comes to commitment.
Seriously, do you think you can keep all of that up after you’re married (if he ever proposes), and maintain the house, cook the meals, take the kids to ballet classes and soccer, and maybe hold down a job, too?
Yes, it’s reality-check time.
You’ve been a sucker for media manipulation. Magazines and TV shows have played on your insecurities. They’ve given you bad advice, just so you’ll buy the next issue (or watch the next show) to learn what you’re not doing right.
It’s not about faking it. Not in terms of your interests, and not in bed.
It’s not about your weight. It’s not about your job, or how busy you are. It’s not about your age or the pressure of your biological clock. It’s not even about those bouts of PMS.
It’s about him, and the four core feelings that make him feel conflicted, inside, without ever telling you what’s going on.
Why is he doing that? Because he doesn’t even know he’s sabotaging himself. In fact, he probably set the trap — the one that prevents him from finding the deep emotional connection he wants — on the very first date… and he hasn’t a clue what he did wrong.
Now it’s your turn to put on the brakes. Take a deep breath, and find better answers.
Fortunately, the answers are easy to find if you know where to look. And, you can fix your broken relationship, bring romance back into your life, and have fun at the same time.
Girl Gets Ring is the system you’re looking for.
You won’t have to be pushy. You won’t be playing hard-to-get. You won’t pretend to be someone you’re not. And, it won’t cost you an arm and a leg, the way some dating sites do.
This system is going to bring honesty back into your relationship. It can change the very second you begin using the quick-start tips in the Girl Gets Ring system.
Get ready for your man to do a double-take, like he’s seeing you with fresh eyes. Expect him to pause, and ask himself why he didn’t see the real you — the wonderful woman he wants to be with — until now.
This system is going to get him past his fears of commitment… the same worries that have ruined his past relationships and made him almost lose you, too.
No manipulation is required. No silly game-playing, and no ridiculous scripts that sound as fake as they are.
Girl Gets Ring is the way to start fresh in your relationship, with a level of honesty that’s going to be a breath of fresh air for both of you.
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