Girl Gets Ring is a system that claims to share “the secrets that will get him from ‘Hello’ to ‘I Do’ faster than you could ever imagine.”
It’s designed to help you earn virtually any man’s total devotion, and his enthusiastic commitment to you and your future together.
Is that a realistic claim? Let’s take a look at what’s required.
First, you need to stop blaming yourself for what’s happened in the past.
Next, if you’re in a relationship that’s been stalled for years, and you’re only staying with him because it’s “better than being alone,” you need to throw him back. You can do better.
You’ll also need to let go of any idea that it’s about your looks, your age, your weight, or how busy you are. That isn’t the problem, and it never has been.
Finally, you need to relax and accept that this could be easier than you ever expected. Girl Gets Ring isn’t some “magic pill” that will do all the work for you. Instead, it’s a system that exposes the lies you’ve been taught about men and relationships, and reveals the basics that can always work with any normal, healthy guy.
Once you understand the four core feelings that drive every man to want closeness and commitment, and what will scare him off, the rest is natural. In fact,
Aspire to be inspired. For it’s only when we’re inspired that our true passion bursts forth from within, demands the world take notice, and renders us irresistible to those around us. It is inspiration that compels us to shed our insecurities, unleash our spirit, strut our stuff, and let the lucky elite see the soul behind the shield. Our soul. The eccentric, passionate, and somewhat challenging soul we keep safely guarded from the outside because we secretly fear it will send that hottie we’ve had our eye on running for the hills in search of a less complicated bobble head. The girl who will conform to all of his likes, dislikes, convictions, prejudices, comfort zones, and twilight zones…without question, query, or quick wit. The girl that mirrors himself without complication. No muss. No fuss. The path of least resistance. We are, by nature, a lazy species. Always looking for the quickest means to an end. And when it comes to dating, we’re no different. Unfortunately, a mediocre companionship without passion or complication is like fast food. It’s an easy, convenient way to double the amount of space you take up in your bed. It can be sporadically good ~ but nothing special most of the time. And all the while, it’s slowly and methodically picking away at your heart…leaving you lethargic, lazy, and boring. We go to great lengths to prevent boredom because it’s…well, boring. We don’t want to be bored with our sweetie any more than we want to be bored with ourselves. So, whether we realize it or not, whether we like it or not, when it comes to a relationship, we will all eventually abandon the path of least of resistance and seek out the road less traveled…if only for the occasional change of scenery.
We seek out someone who not only inspires us, but who is inspired by us.
But our first instinct, and quickest means to an end, is to settle. We choose to date a person who is nice, comfortable, and predictable. Because it’s safe. Because we need safe. Feeling safe is a good thing, an instinctual thing. But safe can be monotonous…and anything but inspirational. We settle out of fear. Fear that a better offer may not come along. Fear that being alone would be worse. We fear fear itself. So we convince ourselves
You’ve been dating for weeks, or months, or maybe even years. You might share dinners, weekends, or even a home. However, whenever you raise the subject of marriage, he says something like, “Quit pushing me. I’m not ready.”
That’s a big warning sign. The relationship isn’t over, but you might wake up one morning and discover that he’s met someone else.
The really demoralizing moment is when you see how quickly he got engaged (and maybe married) to her.
You wonder what was wrong with you. What was so much better about her, that he was eager to commit… and so quickly?
Long conversations with the mirror won’t help. Nor will well-meaning assurances by friends that “he wasn’t good enough for you, ” and “you can do better.”
If you don’t learn what makes men tick, you’re going to go through this over and over again. You need to learn the secret that the other women know..
When you’re dating, sex can be a big issue.
For some couples, sex before marriage is not an option. That’s usually a religious decision.
At the other extreme, some couples are intimate from the beginning, with a “Sure, why not?” casual attitude.
Many couples are somewhere in between those extremes. The question for them is: How soon is “too soon”?
On Bravo’s TV series,Millionaire Matchmaker, star Patti Stanger usually advises couples not to have sex until they’ve both agreed that it’s a committed, monogamous relationship. That sounds good when she says it, but is it the right decision for you?
However, in the January 2012 issue of Allure magazine (page 45),